Standing at the edge of a big change is unsettling, even when you want it. Big moves get two kinds of bad advice: "follow your heart" and "play it safe". The truth sits between. Run the numbers, picture the worst case, then ask if you could live with it. If you can, the fear is mostly noise.
Most big moves can be tested small first: a month in the new city, a year renting before buying, a trial run before the gap year. Test before you bet.
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