Relationships

Should I get back with my ex?

Second chance or move on: eight honest questions about why it ended.

Should I get back with my ex? The quiz

Choices about the people we love are the hardest kind. Go gently, and be honest with yourself. Your answers stay on your device; nobody else sees them.

1Do you know exactly why it ended?
2Has that thing really changed, not just been promised?
3Were you treated with respect most of the time?
4Has some time passed, at least a few months?
5Are you mostly lonely, rather than missing them?
6Did either of you cheat or lie about big things?
7Do your friends think it is a good idea?
8Have you broken up and got back together before?
8 questions

Why exes come back

Breakups hurt, and the brain remembers the good times first. Missing someone is not proof the relationship worked. The test is simple: has the thing that ended it really changed?

Questions people ask

Do relationships work the second time?

Some do, when the problem that ended it was about timing or something that has truly changed. If the problem was trust, respect or values, the second time usually ends the same way.

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