Relationships

Should we move in together?

Ready, trial run or wait: eight practical questions before you share a key.

Should we move in together? The quiz

Choices about the people we love are the hardest kind. Go gently, and be honest with yourself. Your answers stay on your device; nobody else sees them.

1Have you been together for more than a year?
2Have you spent a week or more living together, like on a long trip?
3Have you talked about how you will split rent and bills?
4Do you handle conflict calmly most of the time?
5Are you moving in mainly to save money?
6Do you agree on where the relationship is heading?
7Do you have very different ideas of tidy?
8Would you both have somewhere to go if it did not work out?
8 questions

The money talk

Agree before moving: split rent 50/50 or by income, how bills and groceries work, and what happens if one of you leaves. Couples who skip this talk often have it later as a fight.

Questions people ask

How long should you date before moving in together?

There is no rule, but most couples who do well have been together a year or more and have spent long stretches together first.

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