Should I text him (or her)? The quiz
Choices about the people we love are the hardest kind. Go gently, and be honest with yourself. Your answers stay on your device; nobody else sees them.
What to text
Make it easy to answer: a question, a plan or a shared joke. "Saw this and thought of you" with a link works. "Hey" or a long paragraph puts pressure on the other person. One message, then wait.
When not to text
- Late at night or after drinking.
- When they have not answered your last two messages.
- When you want to make them jealous or guilty.
- Right after an argument, before you have calmed down.
Questions people ask
Should I text him first?
Yes, if he has replied before and you have something real to say. Texting first is confident, not desperate. Double texting after silence is where it goes wrong.
How long should I wait to text back?
There is no rule. Reply when you have time and want to. Games about timing rarely help a good connection.
Should I double text?
Once, after a few days, with something new, is fine. More than that usually means it is time to stop.
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